I guess that’s what everybody’s looking for when they hit my blog for 0 seconds after their Google
search leads them here. So that’s what I’m going to offer in this post.
First, you may wish to check the post
that you’ve been ignoring. I didn’t list any suggestions for coping in that one. But you may still get something out of it. You never really know, now. Do you?
Next, you may want to write down how you feel. If you’d prefer, type it out on your computer. Maybe even post it on your own blog. But either way, writing things out has a tendency to get those things out of ones system.
Then, once you’ve written (printed) them all out, burn them. Leave those feelings in the ashes, and move on. And don’t think that I’m being cruel here, or that I don’t know what I’m talking about. I’ve seen my fair share of hurt, and letting go is the best way of dealing with it.
Now, that doesn’t mean you aren’t going to struggle through occasional bouts with it. Nothing goes away that easy. In fact, I’m going through some difficulties
right now, and yes, I’m having a hard time with "just letting go". But , I’ve found that, if you’re willing to let something go, chances are whatever it is, will stay gone. Unless of course the wound is reopened by someone, then you have to go through the process again.
Another possibility, try prayer. Does that sound lame to you? All the more reason to try. Because prayer is probably the last thing you’d think of doing, and probably the best thing for you. Why? Because prayer takes our focus off of ourselves, and our wants and needs, and it brings us to focus on something that is greater than our petty annoyances.
If you’ve already tried prayer, keep praying. Expect God to do something. But understand. We should be content to know that He loves us, and has saved us from our sins, regardless of whether or not He ever does anything else on our behalf. We have no promises in life, and relief from unrequited love is just another one of those issues that comes without guarantee of resolution.
Now... Allow me to indulge my dark sense of humor with some alternative suggestions.
Food: Take as much money as you need to find the biggest, best, buffet and have at it! Do this often enough and you’ll soon have an excuse for why nobody loves you. In fact, you’ll look in the mirror and start thinking about not seeing yourself anymore.
Alcohol: If I had a penny for every person who ever tried to drink their woes away, I’d own the world! And the really great part about this is that you may end up with a bad (good?) enough case of "beer goggles", that you might actually find someone to take the place of the one you yearn for... At least for the evening.
Drugs: Sorta the same deal as alcohol, only this is not a legal method of coping with a problem. Which kinda makes a new set of problems. And the problems that come with drugs will take your mind right off of anyone you may be pining for. But if anyone asks... You didn’t hear this from me!
Prostitution: No, don’t become a prostitute, just hire one occasionally when you get really down and need a quick pick me up. Also not legal, except in a Nevada. However, this can get pricey, but it sure beats masturbation! Unless of course you’re a loner. In which case, you probably already prefer playing with yourself over playing with others. And this might go a long way to explaining why your love has gone unrequited.
O.K., I’m done now. If you’re one of my regulars, I suspect you’ve had a good laugh. If you’re new here, I hope you got something out of the serious part, and a good chuckle out of the alternative section. Besides, laughter can also be a good way of dealing with such issues.